The Sequence of Vacations

Yay! Hotel di Bali sudah di tangan. Dengan membeli voucher lewat Living Social yang cukup menghemat beberapa ratus ribu rupiah, senyum saya minggu ini pun mengembang. Tidak ada lagi keraguan menginap di Hotel X tersebut, with a full package that comes with a relatively cheap price, plus Kids Club and Kids Swimming Pool provided in hotel. Pada akhirnya kami tidak terlalu peduli bahwa jarak hotel ke pantai bukan sekedar walking distance, karena kami juga akan menyewa mobil selama di sana.

Separuh tahun terakhir di 2013, agenda saya lumayan padat. Mulai dari rencana mendadak ke Bali karena suami kayaknya kangen banget ke sana, jalan-jalan ke kampung halaman saya di Bukittinggi di bulan November, dan a typical family holiday — with Dhara — di akhir tahun. We haven’t decided where to go, tapi kemungkinan besar, saya ingin ajak keluarga ke Hongkong, so that Dhara can meet the Disney’s Princessess 🙂

Dan tiba-tiba kamarin saya chatting dengan seorang sahabat, dan seketika itu pula kami merencanakan liburan berdua saja, to our dream destination: Boracay. Kami sibuk mencari tiket di website-website budget airlines, dan tiket paling murah yang saya dapatkan adalah awal April tahun depan, di angka 2,7 juta PP. To be honest, saya yang selalu menggusung prinsip budget-travel ini rasanya keberatan. Apa? dua juta lebi buat 1 orang? Dulu aja saya ke Phuket hanya bermodal 600 ribu PP, ke Kuala Lumpur 500 ribu PP, bahkan Ho Chi Minh cuma 750 ribu PP. Dua juta sekian rasanya bukan harga yang friendly apalagi tujuan kita memang backpacking. Ya, saya rindu ber-backpacking, jalan-jalan dengan satu ransel dan satu tote bag anti air serbaguna. Sesuatu yang belums sempat saya rasakan lagi sejak saya hamil di akhir 2010 lalu.

Langkah selanjutnya adalah minta ijin ke suami. Eh, gak disangka dia setuju2 aja tanpa kepingin ikut. Terlebih anak saya di bulan itu pun sudah hampir 3 tahun, jadi seharusnya udah gak masalah ditinggal selama 5 hari. Sampai detik ini saya masih dilema, antara beli tiket atau nunggu sampai ada promo tiket murahnya AA, Tiger atau CebuPacific. Tapi, apa iya bakal ada promo tiket murah ke sana? Secara dari Desember sampai May, Boracay sedang high season. Kalaupun ada tiket promo, mungkin ada untuk penerbangan tahun depannya lagi which is I cannot wait for that long.

Oh, kenapa si Boracay dengan pasir putih dan air biru beningnya itu menari-naru di pelupuk mata saya terus, sih?? I feel like they’re calling my name 😦

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Job Less and Do More

Seorang sepupu saya yang agak kepo kemarin sempat bertanya: “Jadi, sekarang elo gak ngapa-ngapain Tan? Jadi ibu rumah tangga aja?”

Iya betul, saat ini saya sedang menikmati bagaimana rasanya jadi ibu rumah tangga setelah saya kembali bekerja non-stop sejak Dhara berumur 5 bulan, November 2011 silam. Tapi saya gak setuju sama sekali dengan asumsi ‘gak ngapa-ngapain’ yang dilontarkan sama sepupu saya itu. Justru dengan waktu yang sungguh leluasa seperti sekarang, saya bisa dengan bebas survey bahan-bahan untuk mendekorasi apartemen saya. Baru kali ini saya tahu apa itu parquetted, bagaimana melapis keramik di atas keramik dengan semen mortar, bagaimana memilih bahan vinyl yang baik dan anti bakteri, dan hunting cari wallpaper murah tapi berkualitas yang bikin saya puas karena bisa ‘mengalahkan’ proposal pemasangan wallpaper dari design interior yang saya sewa dan menghemat berjuta-juta rupiah.

Waktu yang luar biasanya banyaknya ini juga saya manfaatkan untuk belajar menyetir. Saya udah pernah les nyetir dua kali; tahun 2002 dan tahun 2010, tapi ujung2nya gak kepake karena memang saya lebih suka disupirin daripada nyupir sendiri. Karena beberapa minggu terakhir suami sering sekali tugas ke luar kota, saya gatel banget liat mobil kami terparkir dengan manisnya di garasi tanpa bisa dimanfaatkan dengan baik. Lebih bodohnya karena kemana-mana saya ngandelin kendaraan umum atau taksi. Hah, come on lah, masa iya sih, hari gini, ibu anak satu kayak saya sampe gak bisa nyetir sama sekali??? Berangkat dari statement tersebut, akhirnya saya memberanikan diri mengajak anak saya dan ditemani babysitter untuk belanja ke Giant. Sukses. Sukses keluarin mobil dari garasi, sukses parker, sukses masukin lagi mobil ke garasi. Second trial, waktu minggu kemarin saya harus datang ke acara adat keluarga di daerah kebayoran baru. Karena saya tahu acaranya bajal terlalu membosankan untuk Dhara, saya bilang sama suami bahwa sebaiknya dia dan Dhara saya drop aja di suatu tempat dan saya akan bawa mobilnya ke rumah saudara saya. Akhirnya kami putuskan untuk drop Dhara dan ayahnya di FX supaya Dhara bisa main air di Giggle. Udah lama sekali Dhara kepingin main ini, tapi tiap ke sana kondisi badannya selalu lagi gak fit 100%.  Entah lagi pilek, atau memang nyampe sana udah kemaleman sehingga rasanya gak baik main air malem-malem walaupun indoor. Jadilah saya bawa mobil dengan rute FX-Pakubuwono-FX-Pakubuwono-FX. Yes, sampe dua putaran karena sepatu si Dhara dan member card Giggle-nya sempat ketinggalan di mobil saat saya sudah berhasil landing di Pakubuwono (dengan deg-degan karena gak punya SIM tapi nekat melintasi daerah sudirman-senayan) yang pertama kalinya.

Percobaan ketiga adalah percobaan super nekat kemarin siang. Saya memang kemarin perlu ke PIM karena salah satu sahabat saya minta saya menjadi beauty consultant-nya, alias membelikan dan memilihkannya seperangkat make up untuk girls night out di Bali, mengingat dia masih sangat amatir dalam dunia per-make-up-an. I was really excited to assist her. Dan karena kantor suami saya berlokasi di Pondok Pinang, jadilah saya bilang bahwa saya akan ikut dia pagi-pagi dan akan mampir sarapan sebentar di daerah Pondok Indah sambil menunggu PIM buka. Lalu jam 12 siang kita janjian ketemu di PIM untuk pulang bareng. Dan ya, setelah sampai di kantor suami, saya melanjutkan rute ke McD Plaza Pondok Indah. Great, saat itu kondisi lalu lintas padat merayap dari arah lebak bulus ke pondok indah (yaiyalah, jam setengah 8 pagi, gitu) and it was the biggest challenge I’ve ever had. Setelah makan dan browsing di McD sampai jam setengah sepuluh, saya menyetir mobil ke PIM. Masuk kewat PIM 2, saya masuk ke tempat parkir mencoba skill parkir saya di daerah ladies parking. And I did it. Iya saya tau kondisi parkiran mall saat jam 10 pagi pasti masih kosong melompong, but at least I tried. Memulai sesuatu dari yang paling gampang itu gak dosa, kan?

Nah, kalau dipikir-pikir, saya kurang produktif apa? Masih bisa bilang saya gak ngapa-ngapain? Aduh, memang kayaknya makin ke sini, orang makin sering berpikiran picik dan sinis terhadap orang lain, ya. Senang melihat ‘penderitaan’ orang dan rasanya gimana gitu kalau bisa ‘menjatuhkan’ orang dan kemudian merasa ‘menang’. Atau mungkin saya aja yang lagi super sensi karena kemarin memang lagi dapet hari pertama? Hahaha…atau karena baru-baru ini sempet kecewa karena seorang teman yang bener-bener saya anggap teman, bermain kucing-kucingan di belakang saya dalam urusan pekerjaan, saat saya sudah memercayainya 100% dan selalu terbuka tentang apa yang saya lakukan. Entahlah. Saya saat ini cuma sampai pada kesimpulan; “never jeopardize your life to an untrusted friend”. Sedih karena kehilangan teman, but think again, does she worth my genuineness?

Dan untuk urusa pekerjaan ini, saya lagi kehilangan gairah dan nafsu. Sama sekali gak eager buat cari pekerjaan baru. Kadang ini memang terjadi kalau pekerjaan sebelumya (yang terakhir) menyisakan trauma yang luar biasa. Gawat ini. Kalau saya kelamaan di rumah, Dhara justru jadi semakin manja (iyalah, biasanya ditinggal pagi-sore, sekarang kapanpun bisa ketemu). Apalagi, saya jadi mesti hemat-hemat belanja kebutuhan tersier alias barang-barang yang kurang penting (menurut saya) atau barang yang gak berguna (menurut suami saya). Saya jadi harus mengerem browsing-browsing ke online store. Walaupun saat ini saya masih browsing online store untuk cari barang-barang lucu untuk melengkapi dekor di apartemen, tapi jelas saya harus menahan nafsu saat online store langganan saya lagi kasih promo 10% off buat seluruh make up plus 5% untuk customer tertentu (termasuk saya).

Bad timing bener ngasih promo. Nyebelin.

This Aquarian is Turning 28

I have built my own quote this morning; “No one should be happy when they’re in their birthday, because that makes them getting closer to the death. but, everyone will be undeniably happy for how people around treating them very special on that day.”

Not a nice quote, though, but i admit that the happiness feeling that comes on your birthday is because many people are sending you text message, bbm, email, or whatever you name it, by mentioning your name and wishing you all the best, not just sending a template text  like in a broadcast message.

So, I’m 28 now, what’s next? Before answering this question, let me tell you that i’m a real Aquarian. An Aquarian is symbolized as water carrier, but don’t get it wrong, Aquarian is under air element, not water. That’s why they feel so alike with air, and so is their life would be like. In my life, i almost never have a long term plan. my plan is made for a quite short time, and yes it can be suddenly changing, wherever the air blows.

Mrs Aquarius
She’s an unpredictable, fantastic, exasperating lady who can’t help but make an impact on people. Her reactions are always surprising and, even more than Mr Aquarius, she’s a walking contradiction between what she says and what she does.

In life
Mrs Aquarius is a paradox of sensitivity and incoherence. She likes working in a team, mixing with others on projects or research. She’s psychologically tuned in, and she’ll succeed in jobs which require investigative and listening skills. She constantly worries about looking after others and not herself. Free and imaginative, she could have an interesting career of twists and unexpected turns, because she gets bored quickly if routine sets in. She could be an excellent businesswoman, provided that what she sells inspires her.

In love
She says she doesn’t understand anything about love, which is true. She doesn’t see her other half as he actually is, but as she dreams him to be: she glorifies him, and isn’t actually happy with him. In no circumstance does she want to encroach upon her partner’s vital freedom, just as she doesn’t want him to encroach upon her freedom. She likes relationships that haven’t yet fully developed, with passionate letters and long telephone conversations. She’s a surprising woman who praises the single life but will happily marry, divorce and move back in with her ex a few months later! While she might be happy with this lifestyle for a while, she must realise that sooner or later she’ll send all men packing and will end up, much to her happiness, a spinster. Children love her eccentricity and extravagance.

All those traits, both positive and negative, are mostly correct. These traits, sometimes benefiting me but somehow could destruct my life as well.

Walk down the street with your water-bearing Aquarius friend and count how many people stop to say hello and a how-do-you-do to her. She’s friends with absolutely everyone, or that’s what it feels like. In truth though, the Aquarius woman seldom allows people to get too close to her. She can be slightly reserved when it comes to her real feelings and you will find that her circle of friends is, in reality, a lot smaller than her casual hello-goodbye routine indicates. Generous, and always there when you need them, Aquarians flock with friends who share their love of independence and intellectual pursuits.

Sorry for being so narcissistic, but we aquarian know well that we are fantastic. We are attractive in our own way. as for me, i don’t find any difficulties to get along with new people, even strangers. But then, stop, we just want to know you and a little bit detail of your background. no emotion involved. Never ever expect to have a speedy and fast assessment with Aquarians, especially having a personal relationship with them. That would be a long and winding process, but once you succeed, they will be a very good and trusted companion of yours.

Aquarians are intelligent and quick witted, which attract others towards them. They can pick up things really fast. According to the Aquarius horoscope predictions, Aquarians are curious in nature and take interest in every thing around them. However, these can make it difficult for them to concentrate on one thing.

In my life, I have found my partner but haven’t find a satisfying job, other words, a job that possibly keep me for years to stay happily. I don’t understand why, but I think this law of nature, that no one can have everything at once. It is kinda easy for me to pass the job interview, getting the at-first-i-thought-it’s-a-perfect-one job, but everything was ended up uncomfortably. One of my wishes today is finding a good job and stay last long.

Let’s make the wish and blow the candle.

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God is Good

Copied from Facebook Notes (01.01.13)

I barely remember when was the last time I wrote a note and I am slightly thinking that my writing ability is getting worse and worse. I have been quitting to work as feature writer from the beginning of 2011, and recently, having a 1,5-y.o.-daughter-that-always-keep-me-busy also contribute the reason why I am getting less often to write. So I almost forgot how to make a good writing; well-structured, right context, catchy and reader friendly, while most of the topics I have and like to talk about is just how happy I am to be a mother. And for some people, it more sounds boring than attractive.

But thanks if you keep reading, that means you’re not one of the people who thinks that I am too boring 🙂

January 1st, 2013. As routine, I send prayer to my grandmother in heaven (I am quite sure she is there, she’s the most lovable person on earth). Today is her birthday and she would have been 89 years old if she’s still alive. Last night I was wearing t-shirt that I found in Coconut Island store, it texts: My New Year Resolution: No Resolution. I bought it in discounted price though, as I still couldn’t take that one t-shirt would cost 200k rupiah (so much waste of money!). I didn’t celebrate the new year until 12AM, as my daughter needs to sleep earlier. We came home from Kemang at 9.30PM, after watching some fireworks show and I still remember how Dhara amazed with it (and along the way home, she keeps pointing at the sky outside and said “api…api…”). It was nice ambiance and glad that we could have it for free. We even ate at my newly-favorite fast food restaurant for dinner. Who said we should have all the fancy things to celebrate new year? 😀 Me? Growing up in a conservative family, my parents always said that Moslem should not celebrate the new year that based on Roman calendar. We have our own new year’s eve to welcome Hijriyah, my father once said. My husband? Grew in a moderately liberal circumstances, with some of the family members even married cross-religion, new year is something that they used to celebrate. After home, my husband swear that next year we should not repeat the same thing again for the new year’s eve 😀

Of course I am joking if I said that I don’t have any resolution for 2013. As usual, I have sooo many. Sadly, looks like I am always not being committed to achieve those resolutions after the new year’s euphoria ends. A couple of weeks from now, I will be 28. It is a mature age, so I think this time I should be more serious. I am trying to look back on 366 days of 2012, and for me, my life is good. My life is not perfect and maybe is not as great as yours, but I keep in mind that I’ve always been blessed. Yes, there were a lot of troubles happened, but God gave me the way and showed me how to overcome it all. Remember a year ago, when I always complaining that my daughter could not drink milk from bottles so that I should pump the breast milk as much as possible at the office? God is really good for that case, because I was working in a very flexible workplace and I had a very supportive boss. Imagine that 2×30 mins of my normal working time should be allocated for pumping, so that means I received 1/8 of my salary for free, right? Also remember when I was crazily suffered from babysitter’s drama? My boss allowed me to work from home for nearly 3 weeks, and he didn’t even giving me a lot of work burden because he knew that I already had tons at that time. He could understand when I said that I wasn’t be able to do the business trip as my daughter still depends on breastfeeding activity every night. He was a truly God sent! Moreover, I had a very delightful time at office since I had the best colleagues since I started working in 2006. I felt all the problems became hassle-free. We’ve done many things together and shared many things in common. It was something that I couldn’t ask for more.

But life must go on. The situation urged me to find another workplace to continue. Another challenge and experience. Admit that this time I should work harder and double than before, but everything came with price. In mid-2012, I successfully did the first business trip abroad. Okay, you are allowed to laugh out loud now. That may sounds silly, as some of you probably has done this many times and reached various places. But not for me. I as keep moving and jumping from one workplace to another, I hadn’t have a chance to go abroad, for training or just meeting. Who wants to send the staff like me for overseas training and spend thousand of dollars, when my CV recorded that I’d never stay in one place for more than 1 (one) year? I am definitely not a good investment for their institution 🙂 So, my travel to Bangkok last time was sort of an achievement for myself, despite my fear of flying, I was trying to enjoy it as much as possible. In the middle of tight schedule, I went to each mall and attraction by solo, and shopped a lot 🙂

In the end of 2012, I again got a shock therapy, as my babysitter (for the second time) wasn’t back from her ‘kampung’ after taking leave. After Eid, she did it once, but soon she made up her mind and she was back with one week delay. Well, problem was solved for a while. I strongly warned her not to do this anymore and she should give at least one month notification before quitting. But a maid is a maid, she wouldn’t care. So at the beginning of December, I took 2 weeks leave from work and almost decided to be a full-time mom, as I was quite fed up with the babysitter’s drama. I was thinking that: “hey, look, you think that I am not able to take care of my daughter? I can! I just need a babysitter because I am working, not because I can’t do the babysitting.” As a mother, I was emotionally disturbed. My mental health was in the worst condition. Moreover, my daughter became more and more spoiled if I was around. It was not a good sign. Hubby did not agree if I quit from job, but I indeed hesitate to find a new babysitter, trying hard to teach and make them comfortable but at the end they just stayed for a month or so. But again, God has been very good to me. On the 8th day without the babysitter, when my leave was only 6 days remaining, my mom-in-law, who attended a mourn of one of her relatives’ mother, found this babysitter. She used to take care of the old lady who died, and her employer offered us to use her service for trial, and after she suits the job, we could go the her supplier and do the paperworks. It was great, I took the offer. And grateful that the new babysitter wanted to stay with us and take care of my daughter. It was quite hard to find a babysitter who would happily run and follow wherever my daughter runs, to be patient to serve the meals to that super picky eater, and also deal with her stubbornness and persistence to get anything that she wants. I am her mother but i could say that it is not easy to have this kind of kid. And I could not complaint as my father always said that she copied me, thoroughly. Karma? 😀 So, after that, I got back to work and one more problem looks like being solved miraculously. 

Then there comes 2013.

As I said earlier, I am making a couple of resolutions for this year. Some of them are:

  1. I should stop browsing to strawberrynet.com, or I should make it less often. As an unofficial beauty junkie, I’ve got some huge discounts for some of my fave products, but that doesn’t mean that I must do it monthly, rite?
  2. I need to find a good pediatrician for my daughter. To date, we haven’t found the best one yet, whether they are too commercial or too conservative. We need a progressive but genuine one. Any recommendation?
  3. I should be a better wifey, by reducing my high temper and trying to keep my emotion more stable. Not to say I am going to be as flat as my husband though (that’s gonna be boring, yes?), and trying to cook more advanced dish (meaning not only frying some nuggets or boiling an egg)
  4. Have a healthier lifestyle. Back to gym and eating some diet pills to burn these (still) 6 kilos of excess fat, soon after I stop breastfeed my daughter in June 2013. My weight should be back to pre-pregnancy or at least no more than 60 kgs!
  5. Be more satisfied with my current job and not quitting before it reaches one year. That’s probably the most difficult one. I’m not easily satisfied, in any matters 😀
  6. We should start doing our house project. We love our apartment and its wow location, but we think that live in our apartment wouldn’t be a wise choice for our daughter (she loves run and play, barely can sit peacefully for more than 5 minutes, and therefore she needs space more than 30 sqm), but still living with parents no longer fits me. They’re both nice and wonderful, and they are very happy to see their one and only granddaughter everyday, but at this stage, I just want to run my family independently in our own humble house. I am not asking too much, eh?

I don’t know whether I still have some other resolutions, but this time I will just focus on those 6. If I accomplish any other than that, perhaps I am moving to other workplace with a salary two times higher, I will just consider that as a bonus 🙂 With God’s will, everything is possible, right?

So, I am wishing you all more success and happiness in 2013. Hope you get what you want and reach what have you dreamed of. 

Love,

IDY

2012

They said that this year would be the end of the world. They who? I bet they’re bunch of people with insufficient understanding of what our prophet Mohammad and Isa (Jesus) delivered through Qur’an and Bible, that none of the creature, except God, who know when the world will end. None of us, nor the scientiest, the academicians, nor the filmmaker. Or maybe they were just freakingly afraid about how will it be, thus they tried to imagine and visualize it into a movie, that for me, even the movie is too shallow and not enjoyable to watch. Not because the the-end-of-the-world theme in fact terrifies me, but because some of the scenes just did not make sense. And not to exclude, the pathetic acting of the casts. It made the film even worse.

Today’s December 18th, just three days before the doomsday, as said by the filmmaker. Or if we suceeded to pass the date, we will be welcoming the new year pretty soon. 2013. How time flies. It indeed flies.

That means a decade ago when I first having a boyfriend at college, leaving all the high school memories behind. I eagerly stepped onto the new phase of life, the era of freedom and liberation, without hearing Mom’s shouting me to go out from room for dinner, without Dad’s getting mad at me because I awake late and causing us trapped in the damn morning traffic. The liberation that I dreamt of for years when I could decide everything I want to do; waking up late, skipping morning class after hang out with friends that night, a day with no breakfast and fastfood for lunch at the nearest mall from campus, practically running the not-so-healthy life. Everything at its best that time. But if I looked back, I realized that it was there as a phase of my life. That we are all keep growing and getting old. As time goes by, we require more sensibility. Now, after a decade, I see my hand’s waving to that phase. Yes, another year is coming up. How well should I be then?

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There is no such measurement. All I know is when celebrating new year, my age would be changing in a few weeks after. Next year I’ll be turning 28. 28 years, with one little family, with husband’s secured job and I also have mine to complement, with an adorable and amazing daughter, supportive parents and the in laws, a group of people I consider as friends, what else should I need?

I’m still complaining why we not yet accomplish our dream house, though we are on the way to make it happen. Still complaining why my colleagues could be pain in the ass, though I indeed know that everywhere I be, there will always be people like that. So, deal with it! Moreover, I am still complaining how I am suffered that my daughter is a picky-eater, without counting that her verbal skill is developing amazingly fast, that she is copying all the words that I spoke at her best, and many other things that I can’t define here. So, at the age of 28, why not see everything from the lighter side?

I am not a person who thinks that listing down resolutions for the upcoming year is something important. My life is based on just-go-with-the-flow basis though it does not mean that it was without plan. I plan everything that I like to do and never do the same way for things that I dislike. For example, today I can say that next year I should be going to Ha Noi as I postponed it for so long since before I had daughter, but I hesitate to plan that “I should be better managing anger at work”, simply because I know that it’s almost impossible to change myself into an emotionally-stable person that can conquer every conflict with logic and a flat face.

At this moment, 18th December 2012, I should put “stop complaining” plan on the top of the 2013 list of resolution. Sometimes I wish to transfer myself from Choleric to Pleghmatic person, from the determined into a reserved one. But changing personality is not as simple as we think. This time, at least I can plan to start making peace within me.